Spiritual intimacy dating
That truth has brought immeasurable emotional pain and other consequences to many Christians.Worse, it has brought great dishonor to the name of Christ and to the witness of individuals and the church. For Christians, the Lord has given us his Word, and the Holy Spirit helps us to understand it.Modern dating tends to assume that you will spend a great deal of time together (most of it alone).Biblical dating tends to encourage time spent in group activities or with other people the couple knows well.Biblical dating has as its goal to be emotionally and physically intimate with only one member of the opposite sex ... Modern dating tends to be egalitarian (no differences between men and women in spiritual or emotional "wiring" or God-given roles).Biblical dating tends to be complimentarian (God has created men and women differently and has ordained each of these spiritual equals to play different and valuable roles in the church and in the family).It is brand new, and yet, seemingly, it is all we know. Here are some fundamentals: Modern dating philosophy assumes that there will be several intimate romantic relationships in a person's life before marriage.
Biblical dating approaches relationships from a completely different perspective — one of ministry and service and bringing glory to God.That's what I hope this column will be about — applying God's Word to the topic of dating, finding a spouse, and getting married. After this column, you have my word that I'll spend the next several months answering your questions (that is, when I have answers). I have to start by explaining the theological doctrine that drives the approach I want to outline (and advocate).That doctrine is called the sufficiency of Scripture.Modern dating tends to assume that there will be a high level of emotional involvement in a dating relationship, and some level of physical involvement as well.Biblical dating assumes NO physical intimacy, and more limited emotional intimacy outside of marriage.